Monthly Archives: December 2011

How to Improve Your Self-esteem

From time to time we all have some trouble with self-esteem. Here are some tips to improve self-esteem and feel good about yourself.

Talk Positive
If you are always telling yourself what an idiot you are your self-esteem will always suffer. Instead of using negative language start using positive talk. You don’t have to use flowery or unreal language but tell yourself it’s okay when you think you made a mistake. Most things aren’t worth the worry and no one is perfect. Use positive talk in every conversation. Avoid gossip and talking about others. Put yourself in their shoes. You will gain a reputation for being kind. Talk positive and see your self-esteem go up and up.

Keep Friends That Build You Up Not Tear You Down
If you hang around a friend that always points out what you do wrong or puts you down then tell them to take a hike! Keep company with people who will realistically reinforce your good traits and doesn’t pick on you. Good friends are the best thing you can do to improve your self-esteem.

Don’t Allow Someone to Talk Inappropriately
Don’t ever allow anyone call you names or call you stupid even during a fight. There are “rules” for fighting such as no name calling and staying on the subject. If you have a spouse that constantly puts you down or is abusive you need to consider counseling and possible ending the relationship. There is never a reason for anyone to be treated this way. Having healthy conversations and relationships is what everyone needs for their self-esteem.

Take the High Road
Avoid getting caught in sticky situations by paying bills on time or making payment arrangements with someone you owe money when possible. Keep your head held high and stay honest. When you have good and honest standards and morals you won’t have to worry about your self-esteem.

Be Aware of the World
To Improve your self-esteem you don’t have to follow the latest fashion trends or have everything under the sun. A good rule is to be aware of the world and decide what you need versus what you may be obsessed with and keep a happy medium. It’s okay to have material things that make you happy as long as you can pay for them without creating stress. Keeping up with the Jones’ won’t make you happy or improve your self-esteem. It will only make you crazy.

You can improve your self-esteem by a using a few basic rules and focus more on the inside of you- your spirit.

Categories: Mind | Tags: , , | 5 Comments

The Extra Baggage Rule

Everyone is allowed one carry-on of baggage.
One bag of sorrows, disappointments, betrayals, and regrets.
No more than one.
Not a big bag.
Just bring what you can carry.
Stow it away above you
when you aren’t strong enough.
It’s reasonable and natural to
not be able to leave it all behind.
To keep everything you have
stored up-
would be unbearable.
To expect anyone else to carry it for you-
would be cruel.
The past is gone.
It will never return.
The future isn’t here yet.
Let them go and stay here in the present.
Hold on to as little as you can.
When you arrive at your destination
there is nothing you will need.
What you carry with you
will blow away as leaves in the wind.
That is freedom.

Categories: Soul | Tags: , , , , , , ,

How to Live on 24 Hours a Day

Click on this little book to get it for free.


“A short and sweet guide to making the most of one’s life. Although it sounds at first like time management is the main theme, the book is really about balancing the demands of urban life with the need for introspection and contemplation so that neither time nor life ends up wasted. Good, inspirational message.”– D Jones

“Arnold Bennett’s book “How to Live on 24 Hours a Day” is an excellent piece of classic work. Arnold Bennett (for those of you who don’t know) was a popular English novelist in the late 1800’s and early 1900’s.
This book contains timeless advice about squeezing the most out of everyday life. Everything from training your brain to concentrate to living happily is discussed in full.
The book is short enough to be read in an hour or two (around 80 pages in length), and contains sufficient humor and conversational tone to make the read extremely enjoyable.
If you’re looking for practical life advice to help improve your daily quality of life, you will find no better book than this.
Also: I read this book on the Kindle, and it was rendered perfectly. It is the full version of the book, and contains no weird issues (like some of the other free kindle books do).” –Randall Degges

This little book can be read on your Kindle or on any computer. You may also purchase a paperback here.

Keep in mind that this is an old book. It is short but some of it you may want to skim and some read more thoroughly.
I found it entertaining as well as insightful and grounding. Enjoy!

Categories: Free Stuff, Soul | Tags: , , ,

My $1 Shopping Spree

Today I took what I didn’t need to the Montana Rescue Mission Store.
It’s Montana’s best thrift store.
Of course I had to go in and see if they had
any bargains that were on my “need” list.
I picked up three t-shirts at $1 each.
I also chose a tank and a lace shirt that
had caught my eye a while back.
Both were $1 each.
The last two items were sweaters.
A cream color short sleeve was $1.
My splurge was a black cuddly pullover
for $5.99 but it fit what I needed.
My total ticket was $10.99 for
3 tees, 2 sweaters, one tank, and
one lace shirt.

I was amazed at the good condition
of each item. The black sweater had some threads
that needed some repair but were easily fixed.

My summer item list is nearly complete.
I want to buy pants a little closer to summer.
My plan is to minimize my size. 😉

What is your latest best bargain?

Categories: Body | Tags: , , ,

When There is Nothing to Say

Since becoming a Romantic Minimalist I have nothing to say. I should clarify that statement. The topics of conversation have become more clear to me since turning to minimalism. There is little meaningful conversation out there these days. Talk falls into some common categories.

Busy busy busy
“Gosh I’ve been busy.”
“Oh yes, life is so hectic isn’t it?”
“There is never enough time to do it all.”

Me: (silence)

“I said I would bake cookies for the whole class. Ugh.”
“The teenagers won’t do their own laundry.”
“I’ll be up all night getting that project done.”

Me: (silence)

Clutter and Cleanliness
“I don’t know where to store more stuff.”
“Picking up after the family never ends.”
“There isn’t enough space in our house.
Maybe we should buy a bigger one.”

Me: (silence)

“The stress of the bills is overwhelming.”
“We can’t afford anything right now.”
“We just refinanced the Harley to pay for the boat.”
“Did you see that____________________? I just have to have it!

Me: (silence)

Whatever happened to having conversations about history, art, and our dreams?

I’m sending my best friends New Years cards.
In them I am graciously requesting
Meaningful conversations this next year
And for them to omit these categories above.
They know me well enough to understand my point.
Time is precious. Too precious not to
Have meaningful conversations.

I’m fine with silence but I miss my friends.

Categories: Mind, Soul | Tags: , , , , ,

Seven Great Things About Water

Water sounds boring.
It’s not bright unless its a lake in the sunshine.
Water is colorless, odorless, and invisible at times.
What are the great things about water?

1) It makes your skin young again
Water hydrates the skin from the inside out.
It plumps up the skin to perfection.

2) It flushes out toxins
Drinking water flushes out the toxins
that build up in your cells. It helps
keep your system running smoothly.

3) It doesn’t cost a dime
Water costs less than a dime per serving.
It is always the least expensive thing to drink.

4) It fights disease
Washing your hands is the single
best thing you can do to ward off diseases
like influenza and the common cold.

5) It keeps hunger at bay
Hunger is sometimes a sign of dehydration.
Drinking water helps you stay on track
with your eating plan.

6) It cleans anything
Water is still the best thing
to clean your whole house.
There isn’t really a need
for fancy chemicals.

7) It brings life
Everything needs water to live.
Water can bring the ill back to health
and a limp plant back to vibrancy.

Water was so simple to add to our life.
Instead of reaching for other things
now we go for water.
It saves us money, time, and health.

Categories: Body | Tags: ,

Take the Medication for Life

You go to the Doctor.
She writes a prescription for medication.
You take it to the Pharmacy.
The pharmacy fills a bottle and gives it to you.
You take it home and read the bottle.
Over and over again you read the bottle.

You can read all you want.
If you don’t take the medicine
it won’t help you.

There are many experts on different subjects.
Experts are fine.
The experienced are more rare.
Experience speaks a language all itself.

Read all the blogs and websites you want.
Gain knowledge if you need to.
Don’t just sit there in the end.
Take what you learned and do something.

You can’t change your life by gaining knowledge.
You can only change your life if you take action.

Categories: Body, Home, Mind, Soul | Tags: , , , , ,

Create a free website or blog at